BASICALLY THIS IS A POST ON FRIENDSHIP AND IT DEPENDS
HEAVILY ON DEFINITIONS FOUND IN WIKIPEDIA, A CONVENIENT AND
PRETTY ACCURATE DICTIONARY TO RELY ON, ESPECIALLY FOR INTERNET USERS
FRIENDSHIP
IT CONSIDERS THE MAIN COMPONENTS:
1. LOYALTY
2. HONESTY
3. RESPECT
4. CARE, TO A LESSER EXTENT
IT IS RESEARCHED AND WRITEN TO GIVE ANY READER A SENSE
OF THE SIGNIFICANCE OF FRIENDSHIP, MOSTLY OF THE PLATONIC VARIETY
IT IS NOT INTENDED TO INSULT OR OFFEND THE READER, BUT ASSUMES THAT
THE MEANING OF FRIENDSHIP HAS BEEN SLIGHTLY PERVERTED BY PREVIOUS
GENERATIONS OF HUMANS, CHIEFLY TO SUIT THEIR WHIMSICAL AND CONVENIENT
ATTITUDES CONCERNING A DEFINITION OF FRIENDSHIP
UNFORTUNATELY, IT ALSO ASSUMES A GENERAL IGNORANCE ABOUT THE SUBJECT, THAT ALLOWS
PEOPLE TO DEFINE IT TO SUIT THEIR NEEDS, AND THIS DEFINITION IS
THEN PASSED DOWN TO BE FURTHER MODIFIED
WE INSTINCTIVELY KNOW WHAT'S INVOLVED IN FRIENDSHIP,
THOUGH WE MAY DENY IT, AND WE ARE QUICK TO HOLD OTHERS TO A STRICTER
DEFINITION OF FRIENDSHIP THAN OFTEN WE HOLD TO OURSELVES
IT DEFINES 'FRIENDSHIP' AS AN
1.INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP INVOLVING
2.EMPATHY,
3.UNDERSTANDING, A CERTAIN DEGREE OF
4.ALTRUISM
5.LOYALTY, A CERTAIN
6.SOCIAL SOLIDARITY,
7.HONESTY,
8.TRUST,
9.RESPECT,
10.CARE TO A CERTAIN EXTENT, AND SOME
11.AFFECTION
FRIENDSHIP IS A UNIVERSAL RELATIONSHIP THAT INVOLVES
UNIVERSAL FEELINGS AND BEHAVIOURAL ATTITUDES THAT ARE
VERY SIMILAR EVERYWHERE
THIS STUDY ALSO REFERS TO THE NEGATIVE BEHAVIOURS KNOWN AS
1. PREVARICATION,
2. BETRAYAL,
3. RUDENESS,
4. NEGLECT, AND
5. ABUSE,
AS A WAY TO HELP DEFINE REAL-FRIENDSHIPS, FAKE-FRIENDSHIPS, OR THE LACK OF FRIENDSHIP
Main Entry: friend·ship
Pronunciation: \fren(d)-ship\
Function: noun
Date: before 12th century
1 : the state of being friends
2 : the quality or state of being friendly : friendliness
3 obsolete : aid
Friendship is the cooperative and supportive relationship between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, affection, and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as the exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for some, the practical execution of friendship is little more than the trust that someone will not harm them.
Value that is found in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating the following on a consistent basis:
1.the tendency to desire what is best for the other
2.sympathy and empathy
3.honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one's counterpart
4.mutual understanding
In a comparison of personal relationships, friendship is considered to be closer than association, although there is a range of degrees of intimacy in both friendships and associations. Friendship and association can be thought of as spanning across the same continuum. The study of friendship is included in sociology, social psychology, anthropology, philosophy, and zoology. Various theories of friendship have been proposed, among which are social exchange theory, equity theory, relational dialectics, and attachment styles.
IN OUR INHERENT NAIVETE, WE TRUST OTHERS WHEN THEY SAY THEY ARE OUR FRIENDS
BUT READER BEWARE:
1. FRIENDS DON'T MAKE THEIR FRIENDS FEEL BAD, HARDLY EVER
2. FRIENDS SIDE WITH FRIENDS, AUTOMATICALLY, NOT WITH THE OPPOSITION
3. FRIENDS DON'T NEED TO CONVINCE YOU, OR SELL YOU ON THE IDEA THAT
THEY ARE YOUR FRIENDS (THE THOU DOST PROTEST TOO MUCH THEORY)
5. PEOPLE USE BODY LANGUAGE, WITHOUT REALLY THINKING YOU MAY BE WATCHING,
AND BETRAY THEIR REAL FEELINGS THRU ACTION, WHILE THEIR WORDS ARE MEANT TO
SOOTHE YOU INTO A SENSE OF SECURITY
6. OFTEN, PEOPLE DON'T CONSCIOUSLY LIE TO YOU, BUT WILL USE ALL SORTS OF
SOCIALLY 'ACCEPTABLE' PREVARICATIONS TO AVOID INVOLVEMENT, OR DUTY, AS A
FRIEND TO YOU, LIKE 'WE'RE BUSY', ETC
7. OFTEN PEOPLE LIE AUTOMATICALLY INSTEAD OF GIVING AN HONEST, LESS NOBLE, EXCUSE
FOR AN ACTION OR AN OMISSION ON THEIR PART
8. OFTEN THEY HAVE A CHANCE TO AT LEAST OFFER A RANDOM (USUALLY ACCEPTABLE) EXCUSE, BUT DON'T MEAN TO, COMPLICATING MATTERS BY REFUSING TO APOLOGISE OR BE SORRY
9. A STUBBORNESS DEVELOPS IN DENIAL OF FABRICATION, NATURALLY
10. OFTEN PEOPLE WILL THROW UP A CHALLENGE, COVER UP THE LIE, ACCUSE THE 'VICTIM'
TO DEFLECT ATTENTION, FOCUS, AND DETECTION
11. SOMETIMES HYPOCRISY REIGNS, OR MISREPRESENTATION, SOME BELIEVE THEIR CROOKED
DEFINITION OF FRIENDSHIP, SOME ACTUALLY END A RELATIONSHIP WHEN THE
VERACITY OF THEIR FEELINGS IS REVEALED, ETC
12. THE LENGTH OF AN ACQUAINTANCE, OR GROWING UP WITH SOMEONE IS OFTEN OFFERED AS
A REASON FOR 'FRIENDSHIP', BECAUSE IT'S CONVENIENT, AND SO WIDESPREAD
FRIENDS TEND TO WORK PROBLEMS OUT SUCCESSFULLY, AN END OF COMMUNICATION OFTEN
SIGNALS AN END TO A FRIENDSHIP THAT REQUIRES TOO MUCH WORK ON THE PART OF ONE OF THE
PARTIES
WHATEVER THE PROBLEM, WE DON'T ABANDON OTHERS 'TO A FATE WE WOULDN'T WISH ON
OURSELVES', BUT TRY TO SOLVE A PROBLEM IF WE CAN
